“He makes me laugh.”
I say this a lot, usually with a little shoulder shrug and grin.
The laugh factor was a major predeterminer of our marriage. Serial happy-go-lucky couple we are not, but, when it’s right, at those perfect, punchy moments, we can laugh until sweat pours from his forehead and I can’t catch my breath. These bouts do not happen all the time, but often enough. I now snort in public, choke on my food, pee my pants (just a little). Sexy.
You hear relationship experts talk about the essentials of a healthy relationship. A plus B equals C.
These days, I am coming to some ultra simple conclusions. One, that this life can sometimes be a hell of a life. The other, that what most people are looking for is someone who can enter into their shadows and shed a little light. Joy, laughter, humor, a general lightness, can be very (very very very very) good medicine for the soul.
So here’s to you, Charles. Speaking of medicine for the soul, I was going to find some way to tie in Bad Medicine, and maybe a line about how you and Matt would deliriously belt it at the top of your lungs at embarrassing times like in the middle of a crowded parking lot, but I couldn’t figure out how to get it in.
Love this post. I can’t date a man who doesn’t make me laugh, and as I get older and care less what other people think (or pretend I do) I tend to laugh really loud, like head turning in restaurants laugh. And I know he’s a keeper if he doesn’t care.
Glad you found a guy who makes you pee your pants (a little).
i think sometimes the laughter reminds you that its not as bad/serious as we sometimes take ourselves and this life/relationships. Also, a good laugh just feels good on the body as well as the soul. I am so glad you have someone as wonderful as Charles who makes you at times pee your pants…just a little of course.
Love you.
yes, it helps me TAKE MYSELF LESS SERIOUSLY. do you even do that, find yourself taking things too seriously???? when i lived alone i would go DAYS without cracking a SMILE. sad. i feel i have to constantly reevaluate… and i guess charles helps me do that in his silly way. Caro & Hol, thanks for understanding what this means.
Oh, this was so cute! And true. Jen, you and your man are darn adorable!
Jen,
I love you so much! You give me reason to laugh, you have filled my life with so much joy and love. I’m so blessed to have such an amazing wife who loves me more than I can ever imagine.
my love
Charles